For me it was the fact that I would always be slower than everyone else and I would have to put in twice the effort.

  • SomGye@dormi.zone
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    27 days ago

    Realizing that I’ll never be able to achieve any of my previous hopes or “dreams”, it’s too late, and that life is fundamentally uneven and unfair.
    Similarly, realizing there’s no sense of “karma” or balance in real life, it’s just a crutch that people can use to justify or rationalize things.

  • AtariDump@lemmy.world
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    27 days ago

    1. People die unexpectedly. Tell anyone and everyone that you love verbally that you love them (even if it’s man to man). Don’t leave anyone guessing as to how you felt about them.

    2. Not everyone is a friend for life, even if you’ve been friends for 5/10/20/40/80 years.

    3. People change and you can’t control that.

    4. Recording the people you love speaking; preferably while you ask them about their lives. See #1

      • AtariDump@lemmy.world
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        27 days ago

        Yes.

        Not on that level but I’ve lost a friend because we were both a little stubborn. I’ll be the first to admit I didn’t handle the situation well (granted, we were all drunk).

        But, that friend also needs to acknowledge that they too did not handle what happened in the best way and not double down by threatening to sue other friends that were at the event for a orior year’s issue.

        It’s a giant mess. The last thing I told them ~2.6 years ago was that this didn’t have to be a friendship ending event. And here we are; haven’t spoken since then. Some days I miss them and other days I wonder if I’m better off without them and the energy they bring.