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Cake day: June 22nd, 2023

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  • Sorta. I dreamt I had an imaginary family in which I was the only child. IRL I am one of seven kids, plus some cousins and other kids my parents informally took charge of.

    I used to imagine getting new clothes and toys instead of hand me downs, and getting to go to first run movie theaters (too expensive with 7 kids at $10+ per ticket), and eating foods nicer than basic bulk nutrients (Lunchables were the pinnacle of unnecessary expense on food).

    Now I am employed and financially self sufficient. I don’t think about the imaginary family. I do sometimes have trouble spending money on myself. I recently bought a new jacket for $40, very reasonably priced for what it is and the quality. I had in the back of my head for a good three days after buying it that I didn’t really need it and it was a waste of money. Maybe I need the rich imaginary version of myself to tell me to stop feeling like a class-jumping fraud.

    I still have never had a Lunchables, but that desire is long gone.












  • I use Voyager. Lockout specs for me when selecting an app were ability to apply a custom tag to users, and firmly holding my default view/sort settings.

    I started on Boost for Lemmy after using Boost for Reddit. But I was having some issues with it and it’s not actively updated anymore. Not sure if the creator is done with the project or just busy with something else, but I just checked and it still shows the last app update was in July 2024.


  • A male colleague was upset he saw a new, wrapped tampon inside another colleagues purse the other day. Like, stopped in his day to complain out loud levels of upset. When he could have just … moved along or even not peeked inside her purse sitting on her desk.

    Of course women are and still will face our very existence being censored. Men are the default, women are “other”, and always at the whim of men for just how much they will be allowed to exist in public.






  • As my mom was becoming an adult, women in my country still couldn’t have their own bank accounts nor could they vote. So how much choice did she have? She could stay under her abusive father’s control, or roll the dice on marrying a guy who had minimal red flags. They’re fine, they had kids and are still married decades later. But I can’t really say she was able to freely choose.

    I am mixed on how they did as parents. I have no doubt they mostly did what they thought was the right thing. I just strongly disagree with them on some things they believed to be right. Like I wasn’t given certain vaccines as a kid, not because my parents thought they would cause autism, but because my parents thought Hep C would only be caught by drug users and sexually promiscuous people. And their kids would never.


  • Aside from cost, there is also privacy to consider. Subscription home alarm systems don’t fit into my threat model, personally. I focus on hardening physical access points as compared to my neighbors, and good insurance.

    Just like how I only need to outrun my hiking buddy instead of trying to outrun the bear, my house simply needs to look like a more challenging target with lower yield than my neighbors. I am not going to get robbed when my neighbor leaves their patio door unlocked with valuables visible through their always-open windows.


  • I’ve been told my polish sounds “old”. I know only a little bit, learned from grandparents and great grandparents. However they were speaking in the early 1900s when they left Poland for the US, that’s the Polish I grew up hearing.

    I grew up in the Midwest where there were quite a few 2nd, 3rd, + generation Polish Americans. Now I live on the East Coast where there are more people who immigrated from Poland in the last ~20 years in addition to the generational families and they sound quite a bit different from what I grew up with.