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Cake day: June 30th, 2023

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  • That is a false dichotomy. You don’t have to be a direct obstacle for sex or learning to be a person. You can be a realist about it.

    So first, this is parent of a guy. This means if GF gets pregnant, you do not know what is going to happen. That’s a life altering thing. This should be a huge consideration, and it’s not a consideration that a horny 17 year old guy has a really profound perspective on. I remember what that was like, and that was the year I lost my virginity as well.

    There are 3 choices not 2, and it’s easier to analogize to alcohol, but it’s transferable. I don’t want to write a novel on mobile.

    A) You are the house where your kid learns about alcohol. There is a safe environment and one time you buy a sixer and let them see what it’s like to drink them. This is very sane.

    B) You are the house where your kid (and their friends) underage drink. This is irresponsible. You do not need to provide alcohol to teenagers whenever they clean their room or whatever. “OH they are going to drink anyway, so let’s be safe!” Yo… that’s a nonsense argument. You be the parents that go make pickups from any place, at any time no questions asked. THAT is sane. Providing alcohol to your kids, or looking the other way when they drink on the regular is fucking nuts. That is what the comment I replied to sounds like. “You cleaned your room, sure, bring your gf over and bang her brains out. Good work champ.”. Are you kidding me?

    C) You are the house where booze is not allowed. You pour all the alcohol out in your house because you have a teenager. Your cabinets are locked. Whenever your kid is home and friends come over, you draw lines on the liquor bottles. You bust out your portable breathalyzer and you make the kids blow before bed and when they wake up. This is also totally insane. This is how your kids go out and make bad mistakes.

    Your kids can (and will) have sex in your house without facilitating sleepovers, lol. You can be a safe harbor for discussion and mistakes without just serving up sexy time or any other vice in the name of being “approachable and safe”.



  • I think the answer is still no.

    Have those talks of course. The sex is going to happen around that age, but as a parent it is still not your job to make it easy, yeah? This is facilitating that situation. You can raise a reasonable person but still acknowledge that some things just aren’t a good idea.

    This reads to me like if the same situation were presented and so says “can my friends and I have a bottle of vodka at the lan party tonight”. SURE it’s important to talk to kids about this and maybe even let them figure out what to expect in a controlled setting, but the consequences of mistakes are still VERY HIGH. There is a difference between being reasonable / acknowledging reality, and being a facilitator.