Recently, our daughter (17 in June) told my wife and me that she has started dating not 1, but 2 guys. No introductions needed since we already know them; they’ve been close friends of hers for quite some time now. Daughter put it as: why do I have to choose if I like them both and they don’t mind sharing?
I just don’t like it.
Hold on, isn’t your perspective self defeating? The obvious reality of this relationship is that it is experimental in nature. If they’re informed of that going in then making mistakes is the best thing they could all be doing right now at this age where there are still fail-safes. Is it weird insofar as not being a norm that op is used to? Absolutely. Is it good for all of them to get this out of their systems and/or learn what their relationship types and preferences are? Also absolutely. Teenagers are gonna fool around. It’s what they do. The easiest thing for you to do is put aside your differences and respect their autonomy so that they can make their own mistakes while you still have THEIR respect.
Hope this helps, op. Being a parent will never be easy.
I have no idea what you mean by my comment being self defeating.
I’m not saying OP should tell his daughter tlnot to do this. I’m merely stating that it’s almost guaranteed that it’s going to end in broken hearts and tears, for at least 1 of the members. L, given that they’re 17 and most normal relationships at that age fail (which is part of the learning experience yes.)